B’nei Mitzvah Program

What is Bar/Bat Mitzvah?

Bar or Bat Mitzvah is a title a Jew earns at the age of 13. The title indicates a new status in the Jewish community with accompanying privileges and responsibilities.

Bar means “son” and Bat means “daughter.” A mitzvah is a ‘commandment.’ Thus, to become a Bar or Bat Mitzvah is to become a son or daughter of the commandment, that is, one who is obligated to learn about and to observe commandments and Jewish practices as an adult.

Mitzvot teach us to sanctify life. They foster both selflessness and self-esteem, so crucial to the life of a young Jew. They can bring Jewish families closer to the Jewish people, to all people, and to God. Getting ready for Bat and Bar Mitzvah provides a perfect opportunity to bring mitzvot into our Jewish lives. The terms Bar and Bat Mitzvah can therefore be understood as “old enough to do mitzvot.”

The Bat/Bar Mitzvah child at The Temple leads part of the Saturday Shabbat service and reads or chants the Torah and Haftarah portion and blessings for that particular Shabbat. Reading the Torah and Haftarah is an honor and a privilege, but it is also a challenge. It requires knowledge of the Hebrew language and an understanding of sections of our sacred texts. It also affords the students an opportunity to take an adult role in the synagogue and the Jewish community.

Bar/Bat Mitzvah, therefore, is a rite of sacred passage and not a culmination. At The Temple we view the Bat or Bar Mitzvah as the ceremonial moment that points to continued growth and education. The Jewish child of thirteen is welcomed into the adult Jewish community and is given the honor of reading Torah and Haftarah, marking the next stage in his or her Jewish studies and commitment toward Confirmation. We expect every child to fulfill the commitment of continuing his/her Reform Jewish education with Confirmation, at the end of the tenth grade. The Clergy, teachers and lay leaders at The Temple stand ready to guide your family through the process leading to your child becoming a Bar or Bat Mitzvah, and celebrate with you on the occasion of this simcha.

Please direct financial questions or concerns to Craig Goldstein, Executive Director:

Email craig@thetemplelouky.org or call 502.423.1818.

Student Requirements & Expectations:​​

  • ​​The student must have completed at least three years in our Hebrew and religious school, or the equivalent, at the time of becoming Bat/Bar Mitzvah.
  • The student will attend weekly Bar/Bat Mitzvah classes for about six months in addition to Religious and Hebrew School.
  • The student will have private meetings with clergy for preparation of the “d’var torah” or speech.
  • A “mitzvah project” is an integral part of becoming Bar or Bat Mitzvah. This guide contains a section with various mitzvah project suggestions.
  • All members of the student’s class will be invited to the service and celebration.
  • The student will continue to attend The Temple’s Religious School and Hebrew School through 8th grade and continue at the Hebrew High School until 10th grade Confirmation.

Parent Requirements

The family must be members in good standing of the congregation. Financial obligations include the Bar/Bat Mitzvah fee and a deposit to hold the date. The balance of all fees are due three months prior to the event.